What's Your Default Conflict Pattern?

Hey

Now that we've begun looking at conflicts clearly, let's explore what's hiding behind the way we typically respond.

You've taken the first step—seeing conflict clearly as something neutral and structural. Now it's time to get personal (gently!).

Everyone has a default pattern in conflict:

• Fight: You dive straight into confrontation, ready to argue or dominate.

• Flight: You withdraw, avoid, or minimize engagement.

• Freeze: You stall, unsure how to respond, hoping it resolves itself.

Your pattern isn't wrong—but it's useful to know clearly.

Today's prompt helps you uncover your default conflict reaction in a safe, neutral way. When you know your pattern, you gain a powerful choice: accept it, or shift it.

Try this now:

1. Think about a recent business conflict or difficult decision.

2. Open your AI tool (e.g., ChatGPT).

3. Copy and paste this:

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AI Prompt:

You are DEFAULT-CONFLICT-PATTERN-ASSESSOR. Your role is to gently and neutrally help me see how I typically respond in conflict (fight, flight, or freeze). I'll describe a recent scenario. Help me identify my default reaction pattern clearly and kindly, without judgment. Then suggest one simple, achievable way to gently shift towards a more constructive response

Observe what happens. Step by step.

As always, reply to let me know what you discover.